How to deal with the insecurity of being excluded! Is it possible to overcome it?

Girl crying over being left out

*WARNING – These are my thoughts, opinions, and how I deal with this.*

Let’s say you are in a crowd and you want to greet others. You feel good about yourself and in a mood to meet people.

But when you attempt to greet them, they ignore you and they look at you like you have a problem. However, you see them greet others (new and old) and they have a more positive reaction towards them.

Well, you try again, but it’s the same result. You get left out! You question yourself if there is anything wrong with yourself and why people treat you differently than others.

It hurts and it’s a blow to your self-esteem.

Being excluded is not fun!

However, being left out might reveal some things about ourselves then we realize.

So, how do you deal with being left out?

Here is a short story!

once upon a time

Everyone felt left out in one way or another.

Whether at a party, club events, church, etc. Everyone has tasted exclusion.

For me, it happened all the time haha! I’ll give one example. Some years back, I was part of this event. I was like, “Okay cool! Like minded people who can get along with different types of people! Awesome!!”


When I did anything in the event, I was left out and ignored, as if I didn’t exist.

When I tried to speak, it felt uncomfortable. If there are conversations, it slowly dies down in a short while.

Sometimes in parties and events, I tried to greet people, but become excluded again. They would ignore and never look back. So, I would feel hurt.

So basically, I would always be alone and just to think to myself. As I dived deep into my thoughts, I realized something.

I realized in my childhood, people left me out. I was often alone. Perhaps, being left out every time left a wound in me.

So, every time people didn’t acknowledge me, I would be deeply affected. So, it became a subconscious conditioning.

Why do others exclude you?

Sometimes, they might be insecure as well. They might not know how to speak with you or too afraid to face new people. Or they might feel overwhelmed by your presence. Who knows?

What’s more important are your feelings.

However, secured people know they can get along with others, regardless of who or what they are.

Advantages of being excluded

percents written on a balloon

First of all, there is nothing fun about being excluded! Not a big fan! But in my opinion, there might be a good reason for being left out.

  • Alone time. Humans are social creatures, so being left out and feeling shunned is painful. However, we recognize the people around us, but we forget to recognize ourselves. We try to match our principles with others and it leaves us hurting in the long run. So, it’s okay if others leave you out of their group! So what?! Because you have something that they don’t, which is time for yourself. When you have time for yourself, you become more aware of yourself.
    • These days, when I get left out, it doesn’t hurt me because that is a benefit for me. I can focus on my alone time and enjoy whatever event that I am in. I’m there for the experience! If people want to be with me, then that’s cool!. But if not, then it’s okay too! Focus on your enjoyment!
  • Recognize the truth. Actually, the people who leave you out of the group makes your life easier. At least they show their true selves and now you don’t have to wonder if certain people are right for you. Take that as a gift from them. Now, you can move on and search for real friends. That’s their loss! We try hard to stay at a group that’s toxic and it ruins us badly.
    • In the past, I forced myself into a group that saw me as an uncomfortable person. I tried to please them regardless of how they viewed me. Nowadays, I focus on people who care and value. Because in the end, the ones that care for you will be there thick and thin.
  • Self-improvement. When people leave us out, it leaves us thinking what we did wrong. Therefore, we find ways to improve our approach! Sometimes, we come off as strong or weak, so we improve our approach next time a similar situation occurs.
    • These days, I look at being left out as a way for me to help me and improve myself. No one is perfect! I take that opportunity to refine my approaches.

How to cope with being excluded?

road signs that says "give up" or "don't give up"

Talk to someone about it, but….. Being excluded is a negative experience and your self-worth took a blow. It’s better to speak with someone, perhaps our family or friends. Speaking to them about the situation can ease the sadness. They are your rock! Sometimes, we get affected by people we just met, but we forget the people who are there for us.

  • When I would feel left out, I feel sad and a little dissipated. I did hurt a lot! It feels like you’re not worthy. Moreover, if they speak with others, they feel happier with them. It leaves me thinking if there is anything wrong with me.
  • For me, to ease the pain, I speak to the people I trust. For example, I talk to my family about what happened. It feels really good to release all the negative emotions that were left from the exclusion. After our conversation, I would feel better.
  • However, there will be moments when you don’t have anyone to talk with and that’s sometimes annoying. But, If I don’t have anyone to speak with, then I would talk to myself. It seems strange, but talking to myself helps release negative vibes.
    • There are benefits of talking to yourself. It releases those negative emotions and builds self-confidence. Affirmations are wondrous. People think talking to yourself is a sign of being crazy, but that’s further from the truth. We focus on others too much but neglect ourselves.

Accept and understanding. Expressing your feelings will help you accept what happened. When you release the negativity, you start to understand the situation and emotions. You understand that it happens to everyone and it happens all the time, then you can understand your feelings and preferences. People can give you a new perspective, good or bad.

  • After speaking to my family, I get new perspectives. Slowly, I understood that it happens to everyone and I accepted it. I accepted; that it affected me greatly and I wanted to do something about it. Sometimes, the things that give us problems is the key to unlocking the main root.
  • What I always do, I meditate and do deep breathing exercises. Because it helps open my mind and I discover cobwebs that I have never seen before. For example, when I meditate, I discover the reasons for my reaction when being excluded. Getting hurt due to being left out is the cause of all bullying that happened to me when I was a child. When I wanted to play with other children, I was often shunned. That was a routine! So my reaction, I would feel sad and I always distant myself. That conditioned my brain subconsciously and I never faced my issues.
  • When I meditate about the issue, it will hurt at first because of the emotions. You can’t avoid your problems because it always comes back. In my opinion, I discovered that it’s better to sit with the feeling and not being a coward and avoid your responsibility for yourself. When you sit and embrace, then you discover the solution for yourself. As time goes by, you start feeling better and you learn.

Learn and move on. You will realize, it happens to everyone. It’s part of life! By understanding your feelings, it eases you and makes you feel better about yourself. You begin to learn that every pain has its lessons and that every rejection, there are things to learn about yourself. When you start learning, it helps you move on and try again. But, when you try again, it doesn’t hurt as much because now you know that being excluded is a stepping stone towards real friends. You realize ego is a part of why we feel bad after being left out.

  • I’ve learned from great mentors that who we truly are as beings are love, happiness, compassion, etc. If that’s the case, then all the negative feelings with being left out serve as a stepping stone. For me, what I have learned is that the feeling of being left out has to do with my ego.
  • These days, I look at people who exclude me as the stepping stone. Sometimes, we try to force ourselves with people who don’t acknowledge us. Yet, we forget that there are millions of people in the world. Why please them when you have what you need.

Positive outlook

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Being excluded isn’t a great feeling. It makes you feel worthless. Sometimes, it leaves you crying and defeated. It’s not right to exclude anyone. Bottom line!!

However, I’m a big believer of “things happen for a reason.” Understand that the pain of exclusion is a stepping stone.

When you get rejected or excluded, it helps show us the way. We become self-aware of the people we strive to become and be with.

In fact, the only thing true to us is love. That’s why it hurts being excluded. We get affected because there might be something missing in us. Our ego kicks in and tells us that we got hurt, so reaction.

However, I feel exclusion is necessary because sometimes we are forgetting ourselves the ones we care. We focus too much on others and try to please them.

The journey of a heartbreak, how to get over it, and why it’s good for you!

Girl feeling lonely while on the stairs

A heartbreak is not pleasant and a painful experience anyone can handle. A person can make wrong decisions in his or her lives and it’s unbearable to even think about.
It feels like the weight of the world is weighing down on you. You try to remove it, but you can’t! The suffering seems endless and you think the only way to ease the pain is to get back the thing that caused the heartbreak or get back at them. Sometimes, ending your life is another option.
Maybe some of you are going through a heartbreak as you read this. It feels like the world is against you and there are no miracles.
But, what if I told you that a heartbreak is the best gift? Why something so painful, become the best gift? Does that give you hope? I will show you what I mean! Here is my story! The journey of a heartbreak and how you can overcome it.

The First and a good one^^

Let’s go way back in early 2015. I met this girl at the International Friendship Club (IFC), which is a school organization that I used to take part.

NOTE: International Friendship Club aka IFC. A school organization that helps international students that come to Guam to study English. IFC helps out with campus tours, tutoring sessions, and build connections that bridge the gap between local and international students.

Let’s call her by the name RA. She was an exchange student from South Korea. She stayed in Guam for a semester. However, our first meeting was introductions and it was brief. I met her again the following week and she taught me some Korean. From there, we became good friends. We spent time in the club room for hours and playing games with our friends.
As time went by, I started to have feelings for RA, which I didn’t expect. When I started to like her, she already liked someone else. I was hurt and I didn’t know how to cope with my emotions. I felt depressed and I held my negative feelings inside.

NOTE: Don’t hold your feelings in because it can get worse if a similar issue arises. As for my case, it did get worse. It’s only going to tear you apart if you don’t find a way to transmute those feelings positively.

RA is a good person at heart, so the heartache eased a little.
Even when she left, the pain remains, and I just buried it without facing it. However, I thought the pain went away, but it was still there until it finds a way out.
NOTE: When you get a heartbreak, it’s better to feel your emotions and give yourself time to think and heal. Because If you don’t and you just jump to another person, the pain remains and it can have a negative effect. The hole in your heart will grow.

The Second Part 1: Is it the right time?

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It was almost the end of 2015 and the pain from the RA situation was still there, but not as much as before. So, I wasn’t completely healed yet. At least, that was what I wanted to believe.
I started liking another girl. Let’s call her SA. SA was also a member of IFC and I would see her almost daily ever since RA left. But, I barely spoke to her. Maybe a little. As time goes by, I started to like SA for a few reasons.
I started obsessing with this girl that it made me look clingy. Ew right? A couple of people even asked me why I liked her and my reasons were unsure. I just brushed off their questions and thought it was nothing to worry about.
I had a hard time talking with this girl because I didn’t want to come off as creepy. It felt like labor because I wanted her validated me. Eventually, I confessed my feelings, but it felt a bit forced. I constantly kept chasing her. During those times, I didn’t know how she felt for me, but I knew I liked her. I always believed, I had to pursue her, so she would like me. However, that was a bad move. Anyways, we became a bit closer as the months went by and it was great!

The Second Part 2: The Attempt

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One day, I wanted to help her out with her problems, but it didn’t turn out well. I probably forced it out of her, which was a wrong move, despite having good intentions. I wanted her to release those trapped emotions (whatever it was!), but my approach was not good.
NOTE: If you guys have a girl you like or a girlfriend, don’t be her therapist! Don’t fix her problems for her! Allow her to feel those emotions because women are emotional beings. All men have to do is LISTEN! Plus, don’t force it out of her. Let her be the one to come.

It went sour for SA and I. Did I regret it? Yes, I did at that time. I kept forcing myself to see her and this went on for weeks. I became lesser than a human being. She said she wanted space, but I didn’t want space, which made things worse. Because I didn’t understand the concept of time and space, it was always all or nothing. Always putting my eggs in one basket and just give it you’re all. It’s a good mindset, but not every time.
NOTE: When a person says they need time and space, you must give them that. You have to walk away and never look back. It’s their choice to reach out and if they don’t, then move on.

The Second Part 3: Begging and Pleading

Man kneeling down and begging on a beautiful beach

Eventually, I gave her space and in two months she reached out to me. Then, we kicked off where we left for one month. It was a good month until the same issue resurfaced again. So, SA and I’s relationship become sour again. She never gave me the time of day to explain. I became confused and I blamed myself.
I kept coming back to see her and I hoped she would give me the chance to explain myself. My best friend was telling me to stop and he would always tell me, “Dude! You deserve better than this! Look what’s happening to you!” He knows a lot about social dynamics, but it took time for him to get me to snap out of it. I was always in denial, so I kept hoping.
NOTE: Self-respect is an important value. If a person isn’t treating you right, send them love and have the courage to walk away completely from them. At least you still have your dignity.

The Second Part 4: Having enough

"It's enough" is written on a black board

This went on for 6 months of hoping and pleading. Hoping that one day we can reconcile and pleading that things will be the same again.

NOTE: Hoping is NOT a bad thing. In fact, it’s always good to have hope. But, if you are desperate for hope, then you will only disappoint yourself. You become attached and let it go at the same time.
Then, I saw SA and another friend of hers. Something triggered inside me. A bunch of flashbacks hit me all of a sudden about a loved one, so that’s when I blew up. I couldn’t hold it anymore. I shouted so loud that other people heard me :P. All that anger was building up and I just blew up.
It came to a boiling point. A good friend of mine was there for me and I appreciate it. Later that day, I stared at myself in the mirror and it was a long silent stare. I can’t remember how long I stood looking at myself.
I asked God and the universe, “God, why is this happening to me? Please, I want an answer.” There was nothing, but a long silence. Then, it hit me, a realization! “Perhaps, this is it!,” I said to myself. “Ralph, you might not ever reconcile with SA. Are you okay with that?” In a heartbeat, I said quietly, “Yes….” My heart settled and it was the last straw. Enough is enough. The beginning of letting go. From there on, I never looked back.

Why did it hurt more on the 2nd than the 1st?

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Before I get to the healing process, I would like to tell you why it was more painful with SA than it did with RA. Why did I end up telling a story, instead of getting to the point? Well, there is a connection between RA’s and SA’s stories.
In the RA story, I buried the pain without giving myself time for my thoughts and emotions. The result made me take unnecessary actions later on. It became a snowball effect with SA.

That’s why it’s important to allow yourself to have time and space after a heartbreak. Many people jump to another person after a heartbreak or a breakup and that’s not a good idea. It made me obsessed with SA because of the fear of lack, the fear of not having validation for myself and losing her. I didn’t want to feel what happened to RA situation again, so I was chasing after SA. It felt like I needed SA to fill up what was empty in me. Unless you deal with it now, the root problem will always be there.

The Healing & Your Journey

hand comes out of a laptop and presents a mended heart

I shared some process of a heartbreak in SA’s story. Let’s recap!
Having Desperation for any answers and self-blame. Physically, you always feel tired and it feels it’s hard to breathe at times. Sometimes, you start binge eating and you become unhealthy. Emotionally, it feels like someone grabbed your heart directly and kept pulling your heart out. Plus, they have fishhooks as fingernails. You end up crying a lot! Mentally: you feel lesser than human. You start blaming yourself for the situation, always saying toxic things to yourself, “What’s wrong with me?” even though there is nothing wrong with you.
Desperately holding on and Begging for the chance to happen. Holding on to that person will give you that hope. If they end up giving you a chance, then things would change. Hopefully, things would get better.

Hoping and denying to yourself. The constant denial of the situation and not accept it for what it is. Hoping that things will get better.
Now let’s begin…

Anger and frustration build up. You start blaming them for treating you badly. You become clouded by negative emotions, which does not help your case. Something can trigger you at any moment. And when the moment happens, your logic is out the window. You still have sanity, but you are on a brink of falling. It’s a calm before a storm for you.

Then, something triggers you. You looked like a fool and you realize that enough is enough. You just want to get out. Sometimes, it’s frustrating because you want this pain to go away, but it’s tearing you apart.

  • In my case, the moment I blew up and shouted was the time that I had enough. It was time for me to let go of SA. It was frustrating because I wished the pain healed already. But I knew that this needs time. I was still a bit agitated.
  • Holding on won’t help you. You have to let go of everything little by little. I just accepted it for what it is. There was no reason hoping or a future with SA. I walked away and that’s better than holding on to fire. However, It’s easier said than doing it.

Acceptance. You are getting past the anger and focus more on accepting the issue. You realize that things are not the same again. It takes you a while to transition from anger to acceptance, but that’s okay. You are managing to do it. You need to accept anger in this process, so you can release all the tension. If you keep the anger inside you, then you are only destroying yourself. In time, you begin to accept it.

  • I always felt sad and I was expecting something would change. I tried everything to please this person but only made myself look foolish. I was in denial. The more I denied my circumstance, the more it drove me insane.
  • Anyways, I accepted my situation when I blew up in front of SA and the others. I accepted that it’s okay if I’m not able to speak or reconcile with SA again. It was a realization that came to me. A realization will come naturally to you. So, don’t force yourself, just allow it to flow to you. Sometimes people will tell you to accept the situation, but you feel you aren’t ready. You don’t want any stones left unturned. This is the part when you take your time to accept.
  • Once I accepted reality, I was able to forgive myself. It gave me clarity on the situation and how I was feeling. It was easier to let go. If I didn’t accept it, then I would keep going down the rabbit hole. Not accepting the situation becomes bitterness and that’s the last thing you want.

Grieving. After accepting the loss, you can fully feel your emotions independently. At least, that’s how I did it. They say you need to feel it to heal it. By grieving, it helps process all the memories and the emotions that came with it. You don’t want to escape them, but rather embrace the past for the present to flourish.

  • The first thing I did to fully grasp the grieving process is to walk away from SA and anything associated with her. Although, there was a period in time I didn’t want to see her at all! I would completely push her off my mind and try to forget SA, but that was not a good idea. Because it sets me up for a huge rebound. A huge failure. I began to feel a slight anger and bitterness with her again.
  • Good thing, I had people who cared for me. They were constantly there when I was feeling depressed. There are moments you need people to talk with to help ease the pain. Think of it as training wheels, until you can handle things on your own, then you can deal with the process alone.
  • If I didn’t have my friends and family, I spoke with my dog or with myself. Speaking to yourself is good. It helps build self-love. Many people think it’s crazy to talk to oneself, but that’s not true. For me, it helped me validate and bring value to myself. I allowed myself time to think. Sometimes, we spend time with people and we forget who we are because we rely on or get influenced by others. Allow yourself some alone time.
  • I also realized who my real friends were during the hard times. Many people are only there for you during the happy times and not during sad times.
  • I began to calm myself through meditation. I recognized that if I shove SA away from my mind, then I am not fully accepting the situation again. So, I embraced the memories and the emotions with it. Never run away from it! If you run from your problems, then it will always come back worse or delay the process. Remember, what you face disappears.
  • Some friends told me to go do some jogging because it helps with the grieving process. Exercising helps ease your heartache. It releases endorphins, which promotes positive feelings. However, I chose to just sit with my emotions and tried to understand why I was feeling this way. You have to feel it for it to heal.

Changing and discovering new habits. The grieving process took a while! You allowed yourself to feel the pain and sadness. You have found different ways to help yourself. As you searched for answers you discovered talents or interests that you never thought you possessed. Initially, you only do the new habits to help release the pain. With these discoveries, you try these new interests and see what else you can do with it. As time goes by doing your new habits, you realize it not only helps release the sadness from your heartbreak, but you discover more about yourself.

  • The grieving did take time for me and was annoying at times. Sometimes, sitting with the emotions is not enough and I didn’t want to run from it. But, I wanted to explore things. My best friend told me to find an outlet to help me release from time to time.
  • I started reading about life coaching in general and I was researching about motivational mentors and quotes about hard times, lessons in the pain, etc. I wanted to ease my situation, so studying motivational speaking helped me. Plus, I got back to studying the Bible as well. The book of Proverbs has many life lessons.
  • I enjoyed studying about these great mentors and their works. Life coaching interested me, so I wanted to focus on researching and absorbing it. As I was doing this, I did have SA in mind from time to time, but it was slowly easing. I didn’t feel as bitter. In fact, I started to feel happy.
  • So, find your own outlet (as my friend would call it). It could be spending time with friends, making something, etc.

A shift in your thoughts and approaches. Believe me, the way you think and approach will change. During your last phases of the grieving process, your belief system starts shifting. You become more open-minded and having a positive outlook on life. This is the time when you should apply the new skills or hobbies that you gained to help others. You gain more sympathy and empathy with others. You begin to know yourself! And when you know yourself, it helps you to understand others. You become a different person. Then, you realize something far greater…

  • I was still healing and my heart was still stinging, but I started to see the situation positively. I gave myself time to think and immerse through meditations and new habits. My new habits about researching for motivational speakers and building myself through their wisdom helped me heal. I was starting to feel genuinely happy again. It’s been a while since I felt this feeling.
  • You’ll start to feel empowered! More fire will burn in your heart. Everywhere I walked, I was filled with this light. Sometimes it’s hard to explain, but I tell you it feels really good when you persevere. My thoughts were positive and my approach was in a place of conviction. You start to love to improve yourself and you become secure with yourself. So keep going!
  • When you begin to love improving yourself, then that’s self-love. You start to feel worthy of yourself and you become mentally tough too. I started helping people who are going through issues in their life and I became surprised with myself. I didn’t expect to make them feel better by guiding them. I focused on dealing with myself that it was time for me to help others. It works like magic! I guess, the quote “Know thy self” hits a home run.
  • You will take inspired action when you know what you want.

Peace. This is the pinnacle! If you have reached this far, then I commend you. When you reach this point, you become Zen-like. You see life differently before your heartbreak. Now, you realize that the battle is not eternal, but internally. That every situation put in front of you regardless if it’s positive or negative, has learning lessons. There are opportunities to prove yourself. You realize that the cause of your heartbreak was probably the greatest gift that God, the universe has given you. In the beginning, you cried with despair. But now, it’s tears of joy. You’ve crossed the mountain.

  • As I kept helping people, I didn’t realize how I felt at peace. When I thought about my heartbreak with RA and SA, I smile every time. Honestly, if those moments, especially with SA didn’t happen, then I wouldn’t be able to gain this much wisdom. I would still be the same old Ralph that didn’t understand himself. Moreover, I wouldn’t be able to help others. I cried knowing that I crossed the mountain without many setbacks. It’s an amazing feeling.
  • When you are at peace with yourself and the issues that flood your mind disappear, you just want to help others that are going through the same thing as you did. I have helped many people who are going through stress in their lives. Even the international students that came to Guam, I feel privileged to help them. When you help others, it makes you a better person because you understand others needs.

It’s a gift!!

silhouette of a woman with many values

I have to admit, before going through the heartbreak, I hated myself. I always searched for things that fill my heart. No matter how many things I gained, I wasn’t satisfied with what I had. I thought you need to get the things that would make you happy. I searched happiness externally and when I would get it, it always made me feel sad. It wasn’t enough.

But, after going through the heartbreak, I’ve learned that outside things can only make you happy at a certain level. There is a certain limit to it. And when we reach that limit, we look for things bigger than that. But, if we can’t find it, it’s replaced with sadness and disappointment.

That’s why heartbreaks are gifts because of the journey you can discover for yourself. You become stripped of what you thought was important to you, which leaves you with nothing. When you are left with nothing, the only thing is to blame yourself. Then, you turn to other things and look for them, but nothing. You’re left with loneliness and your thoughts. Until one day, you have no choice but your own thoughts. Then, you realize that there are great things about you. Now, you’ve gained something great — self-love.

Thank you, everyone! Please leave a comment and we would love to help you out.

Emotional Pillar: My story of being shy! How I embraced it and overcame it!!

girl overcoming shyness through singing

Being shy isn’t bad.  So, how do you overcome shyness?! Well, let me walk you through my story of overcoming it. 

I grew up shy for the biggest part of my life. When I was young, my mother didn’t want me to do many things. She was overprotective, so I didn’t have much going for me.

I understand my mother because she was doing her job. I thought that was normal! That many kids will experience when they are young. So, it was already conditioning in my mind. However, it did become so frustrating, that I decided I wanted to change my habit.

So, here I will explain my journey when I have been a shy person and how it might help some of you of overcoming it.
However, I want to explain the advantages and disadvantages of being shy before I explain my journey to success.

The advantages of being shy!

I want to discuss that there are advantages to being shy. Many people view shyness as something negative, but it’s a matter of perspective.

First, being shy helps avoid taking risks. For many people taking risks is a bit dangerous. As an example, you see an opportunity but, you realize that there is a risk for pursuing that opportunity.

  • For example, some years ago, a recruiter from the Navy asked me if I wanted to take part in the military. It was a good offer because I can travel and build a life outside of Guam, However, due to my asthma, I was probably already disqualified and I didn’t want to take that risk of being away from my family. Plus, I don’t like the military. That’s why I’m a big fan of One Piece.

Second, being the follower is more comfortable, then leading the way. Some shy people avoid the leadership role because they are afraid that they might botch or feel ashamed when things don’t go the right way. Therefore, their comfort zone is trying to follow orders from others.

  • A long time ago, I didn’t like being in the spotlight, so I chose to take orders from people. Sometimes, that is less hassle too. Especially, when I was not feeling well or emotional during that time. There was a time when I was a leader for a group of exchange students. But, I was going through an emotional stress at that time. So, I couldn’t focus, and the program didn’t turn well as I hoped.

The third is avoiding conflict. One of the most obvious of the advantages. Being alert helps people! Who wants to deal with conflict altogether. As human beings, we thrive for a happy life, so why look for conflict.

  • Before my transitional my phase from being shy to confident, I avoided many conflicts that dealt with drama, fights, etc. I also avoided helping people, because I was afraid to do anything about their situation. However, there were times where I tried to help others but didn’t go my way, which I will explain in my future post. So, being shy helps with avoiding any unnecessary drama.

Fourth, being able to not react to unnecessary gossips, popularity, etc. Some shy people don’t care about being popular, because it’s a waste of time. Since many people who are shy have many things to do in their lives, why waste time gossiping and doing meaningless chit-chat.

  • Being shy was great during these times! I remember people would gossip and I would just listen to them for the amusement. And this would happen often in the club that I joined. But, for the most part, I just brush it off and not think of it too much. It was just a waste of time, so I would just do my thing.

Fifth, you focus on your hobbies more. When I wasn’t invited to parties in middle school and high school, I took my time to practice martial arts. So, while the kids enjoyed themselves in their own free time, I trained instead! Plus, I was able to bond with my family.

  • At that time between 2014 and 2015, I was just a loner. So, I focused on doing my homework. I became more productive in the long run. Plus, I was able to meditate more.

Sixth, shy people are more approachable. Being shy gives you this non-threatening aura around you. Many people approach me for directions or ask questions. I think it’s that innocence that surrounds a shy person, due to the vulnerability.

  • It goes both ways for me, either intimidating or easily approachable. I didn’t pose any threat to anyone and I didn’t have any intentions to hurt others. And I see that with many shy people! They are very approachable if people just allowed some of us to connect.

Seventh, you become a good listener, which allows people to trust you more.  Being shy allows a person to listen more and appreciate the other person‘s viewpoints. “People love talking about themselves” – some stranger.

  • This is a very powerful tool! I was able to build meaningful relationships by just listening. Because people love to express themselves because we are social animals. Interestingly, if you know how to listen, then people will open up and share their stories to you. Even personal ones!

Eighth, you become self-aware. Although I met some shy people lacking in self-awareness, however, there are others who have it.

  • I was lonely, and I didn’t know whom to talk with. The first time that I joined the club at college, I didn’t have many friends. Despite many people being there, not many did try to speak with me besides a few people. I was in my own little world, which helped me internalize more. I became more in tune with myself it helped me become aware of the person I am.
  • Ninthenjoying your alone time. HonestlyI love being alone! I can have time to process. Its about treating and showing care for yourself. I know it sounds strange, but it feels amazing just allowing yourself to be your own person.

Ninth, enjoying your alone time. Honestly, I love being alone! I can have time to process. It’s about treating and showing care for yourself.  Just be yourself, it feels amazing!

  • I enjoy spending time with people, but to me, nothing beats a good relationship with yourself. Being shy made me appreciate life. I love being alone and it helps me visualize about my dreams. I love to dream! Being away from people made me happy too. Therefore, being shy helped me become independent in my right. Plus, it helps with meditation because distractions are not always pleasant.

Finally, you appreciate your relationships! Shy people struggle to find friends that could accept us truly. So, when we meet people, we always cherish what we have and not toss each other like garbage. Because in today’s era, where social media is prominent, friendships end up being like toys. What happens if you get tired of your old toy? You just throw it away. Shy people don’t ride like that. Relationships are important to us!

    • I cherish what I have with people, especially today. I became more appreciative with my family, friends, etc. I even appreciate my pets. It’s okay for me to go to parties from time to time, but it’s always better if I spend my energy with the people who care for me. Sometimes, you might get invited to a party, but you might feel out-of-place or see people who might drain the life out of you. That is self-respect!

Disadvantages of being shy!

This is where people agree that being shy is a disadvantage. That’s how the world sees it. But what can we do? Well, focus on you! So here are the disadvantages.

First, opportunities pass us by. For many shy people, this is what happens. Sometimes, we miss out on opportunities or chances because we didn’t take enough risks.

  • I missed out on some opportunities because of my shyness. In high school, I wanted to ask a girl out to prom, but I didn’t have the courage to even ask her. I was just in my head thinking scenarios without any real action.
  • How I did I get over this? I just speak whatever thought comes into mind. If you want to say “Wow the room stinks….” then say it! Anything that pops into mind. However, initiating is the challenge, due to fear.
  • Of course, there is always a line to not cross, so be careful too. But other than that it’s okay. It might take practice at first, but you will get used to it. You are expressing your feelings and the only risk involve are people’s opinions, which shouldn’t bother you.

Second, not as many friends (I guess). This is common for some people. You end up meeting fewer people, therefore miss out on potential friends that could change your life.

  • This is obvious for me because I was always the loner of every group that I was part of. Therefore, I didn’t make many friends during my years. Was it sad? Just a bit! I didn’t have much courage to speak too, so that was not good.
  • How I overcame was very simple! Wherever I see a person passing by, I would look at them in the eye and smile back at them. If they smile or say Hi great, then you can decide to talk to them. If not, then it’s okay you move on. By me doing this, it helps ease any tension, which helps close the gap between whomever I greet. Moreover, I made friends by just doing this haha. You can take it a step forward by saying hi to them as they pass by. I have made my own trademarks, that work for me.

Third, SOMETIMES shy people are not able to stand their ground and expression. Although there comes a time when we have to stand up for what we believe in. However, being shy hinders that ability to do so.

  • This is true when trying to express how you feel. I felt frustrated when I am trying to express my opinion, but can’t do at times because I was too shy.
  • How did I overcome this? I believe it was 2014, I started debating about frictional stuff like Goku vs. Superman. Sometimes, I would debate about Mayweather vs Pacquiao haha. So I created an account in one of the forum sites because I was a little pissed off with some of the people. At first, I was nervous, but as I kept debating with some opposing fans, it became easier as I kept going back and forth with them. So, I feel it’s a good first step and If you are feeling comfortable enough, then you can start expressing yourself with other people face to face. You can start small and build yourself up.

Fourth, being a lap dog. There were times I was in this place when I was very young. People can take advantage of your shyness. People believe that shy people will not retaliate, therefore, they will make use of them. It happens for some, especially those that might not have developed a strong-minded attitude.

  • How I overcame this? Just say, “No.” That’s it! By saying ‘no’ to things you don’t want to do. Before I kept saying to everything, even though I didn’t want to do some of the things they were telling me. So, I just expressed myself.
  • So if someone tells you to do something and you don’t want to do it, just say NO. Simple! You actually gain more self-respect for yourself and in turn, gain respect from others. You are expressing your truth.

Fifth, not being as popular. Shy people might not get as popular because many are always under the radar. Many favored being in the spotlight.

  • Seventh grade was the first time that I heard about the concept of popularity because people were watching some weird stuff like MTV, reality shows, etc. Kids wanted to imitate stuff they see on TV. I was never popular because I couldn’t relate to them. Some people thought I was weird because I watched anime, dramas, played Yugioh and watched/did martial arts.
  • So how did I overcome this? Well, I got the taste of being popular, during my time in the club. When I did get popular, I wanted more of it. However, it was a short-lived pleasure because I didn’t feel enough within myself. Many people just kept coming and going! So, every time the session ended, I would feel a bit sad and impatient. However, in early 2017, I got over it. It was when I started gaining self-love for myself.

Sixth is lacking in confidence. This one is obvious! You can’t have one or the other. This is the one thing that shy people wish to fully do. Going from shy to feeling confident with myself, it was hard work. It wasn’t just hand down on a silver platter.

  • This is obvious for me. Or else I wouldn’t say that I was shy in the first.
  • How I did I overcome this? Rejections and taking risks was a reason. Sometimes, we have to allow our hearts to hurt to realize what we deserve. I started not caring what people think about me. It was a long journey, and it was not a handed down. Most importantly, love yourself and speak your truth! I recommend doing some deep breathing before any events and if you are feeling nervous, then go to the bathroom and do deep breathing exercises.

Seventh, overthinking what people will do or say. This is true on some degrees. Because shy people are in their own world, which they tend to play events in their heads whether it being from the past, present, or future. There are always what ifs, should have, could have, etc.

  • Being the shy person led me to over think many scenarios in my head that sometimes were not real. Or were they? Joke haha. Anyways, I didn’t talk to many people and I was basically alone every time. So, many times I would fantasize strange thoughts and it led to insecurities.
  • How I did I deal with this? Deep breathing and meditation. When I do deep breathing, I let go of any tension in my body and focus on release any negative thoughts that don’t serve me. I focus on replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts. I do this for at least 5 minutes and sometimes I went 10 minutes or more. Also, listen to your body. If you have tension on a specific part of your body, then something is bothering you internally.

Eighth, shy people might not take inspired action. It’s not because of laziness, but in trying to find the courage to take action. It’s more about fear and when you have fear, you tend to freeze. And this goes back to overthinking things, which will lead to not taking forward action.

  • Being shy didn’t help my self-esteem at all. So, I felt discouraged at times to do much in my life at that time. I didn’t even know what I wanted in my life, and I was a bit lazy. Motivation was not there for me.
  • How did I overcome this? When I started joining the club and spending time with the exchange students, I began to understand what I want in my life. When I understood what I wanted, I began to look for things to learn about the goal I want to do. For me, I wanted to carry out something in my day, even if it’s small and isn’t being afraid to go for it. And if you don’t have a goal yet, then focus on your hobby. So, that’s what I did.

Problems for being shy for me

As I said, I was a shy person throughout my life. In elementary, I was that big, quiet kid that tried to fit in with the other children. I think my shyness developed when people started calling me names like pig, fat, slow, etc. Plus, I did get bullied many times, but I never told my family, which is not the best idea. It’s better to find people whom you trust when you are going through tough times, especially if you can’t cope with a bad situation by yourself and just talk to them.

I remember I got into fights back when I was 9 years old because they knew I was too timid to do anything about it. However, the good thing about getting beat up (which is still unpleasant), my father finally thought me how to fight.

In middle school, I was less shy here, but I was a little quiet. I think it’s because I knew how to fight and I knew that I could hold my own with anyone in middle school haha. Anyways, it was still a little difficult to hold a conversation, but I had fun with the friends I had. I still didn’t get invited to any parties that some kids were having, but it didn’t mind me. Of course, there was some trouble making kids that wanted to pick a fight with me because I was shy and timid, but glad it diffused right away. Overall, middle school was pretty good.

In high school, I was literally the last person that people thought about. No joke! I asked one of my friends and told me and he said that some people don’t care about you, because I was too reserved. Now that was painful to hear at that time. I remember, there was a party with one of the girls from the rugby team. I thought I would be invited because I spoke with this girl many times, but I wasn’t. The great thing about it, I trained and sparred with my father that night during the birthday party.

In college, I was pretty shy and insecure in my early years as well. For every class in the first few years, I was silent like a slug. I didn’t interact at all. It’s like I didn’t care about life. Although I did make friends in those first years. But, it wasn’t that deep. I never tried to do much of anything besides school, martial arts, going home and doing homework. Plus, I was struggling with deciding on which major I should choose.

That was my life in college in the first few years. But one day in 2014, I decided to go to an event in the field house of my university because one of my friends gave me a flier and told me to visit the field house. It was a gathering of many clubs. Plus, I haven’t joined a club yet, so I wanted to check it out. I was looking for my friend, and I saw her promoting her club, but she was too busy to talk. So, I just turned the other way because I was too shy to interact with her and disturb. The moment I turned, I saw a club that was interesting, but weird too. They were wearing a Hanbok (Korean traditional clothes) and other accessories. I walked up to their stand and signed my name on the sheet they had. And that was the beginning of a major change.

Did I just sign up for a club?!

Well, there you go! I finally did something worthwhile in my college career. There is no turning back now. I signed up for a club called the International Friendship Club (IFC). It’s a club that helped international students study English in Guam. So, the clubs job is to accommodate them and help with their English journey.

Also, my sister signed up in the same club, which is good for us. Anyways, we went to a workshop for the club. I was nervous, and it was hard for me to meet and interact with other people there. The club is about touring international students from other countries. After, the introduction we did some activities, which was not comfortable haha. However, the people were good and we made friends with a few of them. Quite welcoming and a good first impression for me.

The activities were great, but my shyness held me back tremendously. In this club, you need to open up, outgoing and whatnot. So it was a struggle for me! Even among the club members felt uncomfortable, I was having a hard time. Also, here is another thing, being shy as a male is much different from a female who is shy. Sure, the girl might face some problems of being shy, but in my experience, it’s different. For a girl, it’s viewed as cute and innocent, while a guy it’s viewed the wrong way, at least in my experience.

What a journey it is!!

Honestly, I thought about quitting the club countless times in 2014 and going in 2015. Plus, I was only experiencing the short-term school that was coming instead of the long-term schools.

* NOTE: Short-term schools are schools from other countries that study abroad for a short time. Long-term schools are schools from other countries that study abroad for about 2 weeks to 1 month. Long terms usually come during Summer and Winter seasons, while short terms usually come in during Spring and Fall.*

So, I was struggling already with the students and the club members. However, in early January 2015, I met a really wonderful friend that will turn the tides for me, the first catalyst.

Let’s call her by the name of RA. RA was an exchange student that stayed for 6 months to study in Guam (The place where I live. Sorry I forgot to mention). We met at the club orientation for new members and she was with a friend. They were nice people and we got really close as time went by, especially RA. I remember she wanted to go to the flea market but I kept refusing because I was insecure and shy to even hang out.

But, we would still see each other in the club, and it was fun. For the first time in the club, I felt at ease and it didn’t feel uncomfortable. RA and I always interacted, and this happened for months. Then, I started to like her, which was the last thing that could happen. However, I was too late. She already liked someone else. Anyways, I will explain in detail how I felt during these times in my next article about Heartbreak. And I will explain the process of a heartbreak, dealing with it, and the type of person you can become. When she left, I was hurt.

It felt so heavy in my heart, and it was hard for me to accept at that time. But once I did accept it, that’s when I started changing unconsciously. Like there was a switch in my mind and it clicked. Of course, I was still very insecure and shy, but it was a big change.

Anyways, after she left in June 2015, there were schools from Korea that will come. I was indifferent. I wasn’t focused on them at that time.

So, when they arrived, the number of students overwhelmed and the interactions with them. But when am I hanging out with the students, I wasn’t as shy and I didn’t realize it. I was having fun, but my timidness was still there. And this happened in every school that came in for the next 3 years. Of course, with every school came with every struggle.

Also, one thing that helped me overcome shyness is to embrace that I am shy. For example, I was talking to a group of people during one of the opening ceremonies for the club. I told them, “Hey, I’m a shy person and I am nervous now.” and when I said that they began to laugh and giggle. They started to get comfortable with me because I wasn’t trying to act what I am not. I wasn’t trying to be the “Man” or be the “Party guy.” I was being myself and I was really nervous. Plus, it helped boost my self-esteem.

As I continued to meet new people and interact with them, I become more and more confident. With every international school that came, I learned more about them as people, their culture, and myself. I took every situation as a learning experience. So, I was a different person every season with meeting new schools. Not to mention different situations with the club members, which helped mold me. It was great because there was a mixture of emotions, such as excitement, sadness, anger, frustration, etc. It wasn’t boring because it wasn’t predictable.

I want to share a tool that can help anyone that is feeling nervous, feel more relax and a good confidence booster. It’s a technique that I use before social gathering or presentations.

Breathing exercise to release tension and nervousness!!

Of course, there were times that I would reach a heavy plateau in which I never seem to get out of. Sometimes, you will feel nervous in different situations, and you can’t help it. So, I found ways of releasing the tension, which makes me feel more energized and more confident. Here are the steps:

  1. Go to a place where you are comfortable and that no one can disturb you.
  2. Next, you stand up comfortably and make sure you have good posture.
  3. Then, you place your tongue on the roof of your mouth. Just behind your front teeth.
  4. Inhale for 4 seconds through your nose as deeply as you can.
  5. Hold it for another 4 seconds and then exhale through your mouth.
  6. As you exhale through your mouth, you will begin to tighten your stomach by sucking in your belly. At the same time, tighten your buttocks, and you’ll notice your pelvic shifting forward as you exhale.
  7. DO this for at least 5 minutes. Once you finished, you will feel renewed and you can go back to your social gathering.

I do this when I feel low in energy or feeling shy and nervous. Breath is your life force! Of course, there are other techniques out there, but this one stuck with me and had success with it. And I use this technique to manage stress and feel grounded. You will know if you feel grounded if your voice gets slightly deeper. I discovered this technique when I was about to present in front of the class because I was so nervous at that time. So, one of my mentors taught me this technique, and I feel good every time I do it.

SO what did I learn from the JOURNEY?

Looking back, I was like “Wow! That was me, huh? Haha.” Because it was a long journey. Every semester was a different me. Well, maybe a more improved version of myself every semester and I always came with new tools. I would refine myself and replace habits that didn’t serve me. I remember, my mentality was “I need to get out of here,” but now it’s more “I will find a way in this situation.”

Throughout my journey of overcoming shyness, it was a fun-filled roller coaster ride. It wasn’t as easy as you might expect. There were many peaks and lows that confused the heck out of me. And there were times that I had a flat line or plateau as you might say. But that is normal throughout the process because if you don’t feel those moments of being on the bottom, then you won’t learn to take action on finding ways of overcoming plateaus. And when you find ways to overcome them, you learn more things to deal with them on your own terms. Plus, it feels great to work hard on your own terms without anyone holding our hands for us.

You realize as a shy person that through success and failures, you feel good about it. It’s like you cherish every moment as a gift. Of course, at first negative situations will stick to you like glue for a while, but once you emotionally let go, you will feel peace, happiness, and you become more confident.

As a shy person, as long as we do the tasks that we struggled with, it makes us feel accomplished, even though it was an utter failure. There are no complaints at all. We prove ourselves and it showed how much heart that we have. For example, some of us may struggle in public speaking, but there are classes need for you to do it, so you have no choice but to do it. We end up doing it and even though it was not that good, you can feel that sense of fulfillment and that what makes you happy.

You start to learn things about yourself more. For example, you find ways and techniques that help you to overcome shyness, like the breathing technique that I showed you earlier. When you are struggling, but can’t find the solution to your current situation, you tend to seek it out. And by seeking it out, you discover hidden talents that are hidden all along.

You begin to embrace your past, present, and future self. You look at yourself and you just give yourself a big hug for doing great things.

Regardless of if you are shy or not, embrace what you are. Always remember that you are always enough. The more you accept it, the more you will feel better with yourself. Believe me!

Thank you, everyone, for reading/listening and I believe you can all get through this.

Leave a comment if you have any questions regarding your struggles and I will be happy to help.

How to get lean, sexy and strong legs without weights?

I remember a long time ago, my father asked me to help him push one of our cars because the car has a problem with the alternator. Anyways, I help him out and my father got in the car, so he can use the steering wheel and brakes.

So, it has been just me pushing the car! When I started pushing the vehicle, it was so heavy. I was struggling a bit. I thought the car was not set to neutral, but it was. So I figured, it was probably my legs that were weak.

My arms were good, but legs were hurting and felt I ran 2 miles by just pushing the car. I was a bit put off. I thought I did not need to train as much because I believed I was a naturally strong guy. So that was frustrating!!

The Search!!

So, I researched training my body to get stronger. I tried some weight training, but I injured myself multiple times and it set me back from weeks of training.

I tried plyometrics and it helped my cardio a lot, but it didn’t really make me as strong as I wanted. Plus, I didn’t have enough space to train, so it annoyed me often.

I still kept researching and one day I was watching a Bruce Lee movie back in 2012 or 13. So, I was watching his movie called Way of the Dragon and I liked how his physique looked. I was curious about how Bruce Lee trained and I hoped I might find something that I was looking for.

He did some weight training, which put me off. Because I got injuries from it. However, there was a time when Bruce Lee had a back injury due to a weight training routine, which kept him on the sidelines for a bit. After healing up, it stated that he was using a method called isometrics. I didn’t know what that was, so I did an extensive research.

The Process!!

It turns out, it was a method that really interests me. For me, I didn’t want to look big but still be powerful at the same time. Plus, I don’t have space in my house. But, I still did more research about it, because I didn’t understand the methods yet. As kept researching, I tried the methods for myself. Of course, there were trial and errors, but it was a fun process.

After doing isometrics for a while, I tested my strength in some ways. I was able to bend a bar, which I couldn’t do before. And I was able to finally push one of our cars with ease now.

My legs are stronger than it was before. Anyways, enough of the story, I want to show everyone How to get Sexy and strong leg muscles?

Leg lifts!!

You are all probably familiar with leg lifting from doing some weight training. While I was on my computer, I began to stretch my legs and it felt really good. My quadriceps were feeling good and my mood felt great. So, I experimented with ways to strengthen your legs, while sitting down. So, I will share with all of you, one of the leg exercise that I do. Anyways, here we go!!

Materials you will need:

  • Chair

FIrst angle:

  1. Sit on a chair and make sure you are comfortable.
  2. Your feet will be slightly lifted up, probably about 3 inches off the ground. Make sure, you keep it in that place.
  3. Then, put one of your ankle on the bottom of your other ankle.
  4. Next, the bottom ankle will try to lift the ankle on top, while the ankle on top will resist it. So, your legs will not move as you resist each other. You will feel your quad muscles here.
  5. At the same time, as you slowly build contraction on both legs, begin to inhale through your nose and down to your stomach. After breathing in and you build maximum contraction, exhale as you keep up maximum contraction. Once, you release the air, slowly relax your leg muscles as you inhale to finish the workout.
  6. After that, switch legs and repeat the process.

You will feel your quadriceps working and all the muscle fibers activated. The good thing about it, you don’t have to worry about getting injured. That’s probably the last thing that would happen.

Second angle:

It’s essentially the same process, except that your feet will be 6 inches instead of 3 inches.

Breathing will always be the same. Try your best to breath at your own pace.

Third angle:

Just like the first and second angle. However, your feet will be slightly higher than the previous two angles. SO, instead of 6 inches off the floor, your legs will be straight our for about 9 inches to 12 inches from the ground.

Hamstring workout!

I remember, I kept researching online from YouTube, to articles, to forums on how isometrically train your hamstrings. I felt so stupid because I discovered a simple way to train your back legs. And I will show you in a moment!

But sir! Isn’t training the quads enough!??

It’s good that we got to train our quads. However, that’s not enough! Why? There has to be a balance on your legs. If you train your quads more than the other parts of your legs, then injuries can occur. So now, I will show you how to train the back side of your legs. It’s almost similar to the quadriceps exercise, so it’s easy!

Materials you need:

  • Floor, bed, or anywhere you can comfortably lay on your front side.

First angle:

  1. Start by lying on your stomach and your head will rest on your arms.
  2. Then, lift your legs for about 3 inches off the floor.
  3. Put one of your ankle on the bottom of your other ankle.
  4. Begin, letting the bottom leg resist by pushing up, while your top leg is resisting. Therefore, it is staying in one place and you focused on training the hamstrings.
  5. As your legs start to resist each other, slowly inhale as you build contraction. Once, you build to maximum contraction and you fully inhale, exhale slowly as you keep up that contraction. After releasing the air, slowly relax your muscles and inhale to finish the exercise.
  6. Switch legs and start the process once again to equally engage both legs.

Second angle:

The same as the first angle, but your feet will be 6 or 7 inches off the ground. Repeat the same process!

Third angle:

This one too! Instead of 6 inches from the floor, this will be about 90 degrees

Calf raises!

Probably the most common leg exercises out there. Probably the most used as well, since we use it to do many activities from sports, life, etc. But, would it be nice if we can strengthen our calves to do more?

I would love that! SO here is the calf workouts that will be presented here.

Materials you need:

  • Chair
  • Floor

First angle:

Isometrics calves exercises at peak angle

  1. Sit on a chair and be comfortable! Your feet will be on the floor.
  2. Next, lift your heel off the floor for about 6 inches as you keep the balls of your feet on the floor.
  3. Then, put your hands on top of each knee and push them downwards to resist against your legs.
  4. Begin, by pushing your feet up by building contraction.
  5. At the same time, you are inhaling like the previous exercises. After you inhale, release the air as you maintain maximum contraction! Once, you release the air, slowly relax your muscles and inhale to finish the workout.
  6. Switch legs and do the same process.

Second angle:

Isometrics calves exercises at midpoint angle

It’s the same as the first angle, but your heel will be 3 inches off the floor now.

Third angle:

Isometrics calves exercise

Just like the two angles, but your heels are touching the floor now. Breathing is always the same!

When is a good time exercise your legs?

I would divide each exercise into three days. For example, Day 1 is the first angle, day 2 is the second angle, and day 3 is the third angle. So all exercises, but divide them into their angles.

Then, just repeat the process. If you want, you can train every day or have a rest day in between after the third angle.

Never skip leg day after these exercises!!

Well, there you have it guys! These are the leg exercises that help me build that power to finally push the car in my garage haha.

Anyways, these exercises can tremendously increase your overall strength, while maintaining lean muscles. And I’m not exaggerating! Besides, I’m not a fan of tree trunk legs anyways. So, these exercises are what I prefer. I hope it helps with your personal growth.

Please leave a comment on what you all think and if you have questions, we will do the best of our abilities to help you all!

Thank you!

Earbuds and Headphones good for workouts – Very comfortable and easy to use!

I remember passing by in my family’s condo and I saw a gym that is available there. I checked it out and when I walked in, I heard a loud burst of music engulfing the room.

I signed in to try out some training in there. It was fine in the beginning, but the music that was playing loud was not my cup of tea. I told myself that I wish I have my music with me and a pair of earbuds, so I can listen to my music. That way, I can focus more and not really get a headache.

Anyways, here are earbuds that I can help recommend and help any of you who wants to buy for their own. I want people to enjoy using earbuds even while they workout or other activities. But how can a person comfortably use them if they keep falling off?

Earhoox Trio (3 sets) by Earhoox

earhoox's earbubs

Image courtesy of Earhoox

When I saw these earbuds, I was really happy. Finally!!! An Earbud that will stay in my ears, regardless of the activities I do! Because you typical Earbud does not have hooks to hold them in place, so it always falls every time I do anything. But with this, I can enjoy my time and listen to music or ebooks without constantly adjusting my earbuds in my ears.

The features for Earhoox’s earbuds that it’s compatible with Apple EarPods and AirPods. Plus, each pair is different colors from white, blue, and black.

The price is pretty good. I mean, it is not that expensive and not that cheap. It’s a reasonable price and it received a 17 percent discount from the original price.

    • Product: Earhoox Trio (3 sets)
    • Price: $24.99
    • Place to Buy: Earhoox
    • Features:
      • Hooks so it won’t slip and fall as well as for more comfortable use.
      • Has three Colors per set:
        • Set of colors:

Bluetooth Headphones from Otium

Bluetooth headphones

TO BE honest, this is my first time seeing a wireless earbud that also features Bluetooth. I always thought that earbuds were all the same. For example, earbuds for me were always cheap or the larger headphone’s inferior cousin. That it was only used because of its limitation. However, it is another variation and preference.

It’s not your typical earbuds too. It does not just slip and fall off. This one has a hook too, that prevents from slipping and falling, which is a relief for many people.

Plus, it has free shipping and other awesome catch to this product. Check it out!

    • Product: Bluetooth Headphones
    • Price: $19.97
    • The place to Buy: Amazon
    • Features:
      • Otium Best Wireless Sports Earphones w/Mic IPX7
      • Waterproof HD Stereo Sweatproof in Ear Earbuds for Gym Running Workout
      • 8 Hour Battery
      • Noise Cancelling Headsets

Tzumi Bluetooth Stereo Foldable Rechargeable Wireless Headphones

Tzumi wireless headphones

I have this headphone by Tzumi and it’s very comfortable. I bought these because I’m tired of earbuds, which kept falling off my ears every time I use them. SO, I had to look for an alternative.

It was my first time hearing about Tzumi. When I researched them, they have good amount products like chargers, audios, cases, etc. Anyways, I bought their Headphones and I must say it’s pretty good.

  • Product: Tzumi Bluetooth Stereo Foldable Rechargeable Wireless Headphones
  • Price: $37.98
  • Place to buy: Amazon
  • Features:
    • Built-in High Definition Microphone and Remote Music Control.
    • Foldable for space efficiency
    • Quick rechargeable battery
    • Bluetooth connectivity
    • Powerful audiophile tuned bass for a more crisp sound 

However, I have one issue. These headphones also come with a cord for those that prefer headphones with a cord. The issue is that every time I connect the cord with my other phones, it makes these annoying clicking sounds. It’s not painful, but it’s very annoying.

Overall, I love it! I recommend them. I would it 8.9 out of 10.

Bluetooth Headphones, Small Target Best Wireless Sports Earphones w/Mic IPX7 

Another one of these Bluetooth earbuds. But, thanks to the hooks, it just made life easier. Usually, if it’s earbuds, I wouldn’t buy them because it slips, but in this case, I highly recommend it.

  • Product: Bluetooth Headphones, Small Target Best Wireless Sports Earphones w/Mic IPX7
  • Price: $14.99
  • Place to buy: Amazon
  • Features:
    • Premium HD Audio Performance w/ wireless sports Bluetooth
    • Comfort & secure fit design w/ waterproof rating and silicon hooks rest comfortably on the ears.
    • Good for sport and sweat proof
    • Long lasting battery up to 9 hours
    • Compatible with devices like tablets, smartphones, etc.

Earbuds and Headphones! I love it!

So far, these are the headphones and earbuds that I can recommend with a good reasonable price. They are very comfortable to wear and overall easy to use. It is not your typical earbuds that just fall off your ears, while you listen to music. That could be very annoying. But, with these earbuds and headphones, you would not really have many problems. Perhaps, the only downside is probably if it’s not wireless. But, other than that, the sounds are good and the features are good too.

Please leave your comments or questions and I would be happy to help you all!

Thank you! Let the inner strength guide you

Crop Top Reviews – Make your day flow and comfortable!

It is very hot right now at the place I am living. Tight shirts are not ideal for a weather that will make you sweat like a waterfall. For me, it would be nice to feel the breeze instead of just the glaring heat. So, I complied Crop Top shirts that can help people feel comfortable during a hot season and decide which can help them for themselves.

Pineapple Logo Crop Top – Heather Navy & Triblend Maroon from Love Fitness Apparel

croptop by love fitess apparel navy

croptop by love fitess apparel maroon

Photos by Love Fitness Apparel

To tell you all the truth, I was not quite familiar with crop top shirts or even was not aware of how it looks like. However, when I saw the Pineapple crop top shirts, I had an ah-ha moment haha. I thought to myself, “WOW! Crop top looks quite attracting and cute!” I realize, there are many women that are wearing them and it sort of amplifies their aura a bit more, in my opinion. Plus, I love the colors because it makes a person seem confident looking, in my opinion. It makes a person look more in-depth. However, some people might not be comfortable to wear short shirts because it can reveal too much skin. So, these kinds of shirt might not be your cup of tea.

So, I decided to showcase my opinions of various Crop top shirts that I thought looked cute haha. Although, I am not sure if I have seen guys wear crop tops. Maybe I have, but I probably did not notice.

In my opinion, I feel it can be used for workouts as well. Considering the fact that it helps cool down the body at extreme heats. So, I feel it is practical, in my opinion.

I love the pineapple logo on the shirts. It has that island feel to it and summer feel too. Therefore, making it feel more relaxed.

    • Product: Pineapple Logo Crop Top – Heather Navy & Triblend Maroon
    • Price: $24.00
    • Place to Buy: Love Fitness Apparel (Blue) & Here (Maroon)
    • Gender: Unisex
    • Sizes:

Image by Love Fitness Apparel

Tropical Palm Trees Crop Top from Love Fitness Apparel

croptop by love fitess apparel tropical palm trees

croptop by love fitess apparel tropical palm trees black

Images by Love Fitness Apparel

Honestly, I like this kind of crop top shirts! Why? If I were a woman, then I would like most of my shirts quite similar to Tropical Palm Trees Crop Top. Because it is loose and flows! Despite, being a bit loose, it still helps retains a person’s attractive. In fact, I feel people who wear these kinds of shirts glows. Not to mention, it is not as short as some crop tops. SOME females’ are not into short shirts and who are not interested in revealing too much skin, so the Tropical Palm Trees Crop Top might be your cup of tea.

The colors are contrasting from one another, like a yin and yang The Mauve colored shirt, looks relaxing! It feels like you can just walk with your honey or whoever, down the beach and drink some milk shakes along with it. It feels lighthearted and outgoing in a way. It’s more open, in my opinion! The black shirt, in my opinion, adds mystery to it. It’s very sexy and it looks appealing as well. However, dark color on a hot summer day can be a bothersome, but hey, it looks and feels good either way. I love the contrast of colors that can help magnifies and amplifies their attractiveness in their respective colors.

    • Product: Tropical Palm Trees Crop Top
    • Price: $23.00
    • Place to Buy: Love Fitness Apparel (Mauve) & Here (Black)
    • Gender: Female
    • Sizes:

Image by Love Fitness Apparel

Crop Tops Feel Good!

Based on my observation of these shirts, I would say I like their appeal. In my opinion, it has that attractive nature to it because it is not too revealing and it feels confident. The nature of a crop top to me is relaxing and it does amplify a person’s aura more. For me, I am not really into tight shirts, despite me wearing some haha.

However, even though it feels loose, sometimes some crop tops can be a bit short for some people’s cup of tea. So, if you don’t want to reveal much of some of your skin, then some crop tops might not be for you. But, if you are the type of person that wears loose shirts and a little skin, then crop tops is your style.

Anyways, this is my review for these wonderful crop top shirts! If you have any question, just drop a comment and I will be with you shortly!

Thank you

Supplements for Performance, Weight Loss, and Fat Burner Review

You all probably know that I prefer functionality over aesthetics. But aesthetics does have place in the exercise and fitness realm! SO I was thinking about foods and supplements that can create both performance and looks. There are people that want both. So here are products that I will review that can help you with your daily lives. The price seems reasonable for the benefits that it creates.

Gaspari Nutrition NOVA-X 60 TABS

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  • Product: Gaspari Nutrition NOVA-X 60 TABS
  • Price: $49.99
  • Place to Buy: My Supplement Store
  • Size of Containers: 60 Tablets (Enteric coated capsules)
  • Dosage:
    • Morning on empty stomach (1 capsule)
    • After 8 hours (1 capsule)

Now, I am a big advocate of artificial means to boosting health performance. But the good thing about Gaspari Nutrition NOVA-X is that it is a natural testosterone booster. This supplement helps increase your HGH and helps control estrogen levels. This yields an astonishing benefits to the body:

  • It helps burn fat off your system
  • Your testosterone levels increases through the roof
  • It controls your estrogen levels
  • You end up building lean muscles
  • HGH levels increases as well

The downside of Gaspari Nutrition NOVA-X is that it can only be taken by people who are:

  • 18 years of age and above
  • Women who are pregnant are not allowed to take this product

Hi-tech Pharmaceuticals Hydroxyelite 90 CAPS

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  • Product: Hi-tech Pharmaceuticals Hydroxyelite 90 CAPS
  • Price: $34.95
  • Place to Buy: My Supplement Store
  • Size of Container: 90 Capsules
  • Dosage:
    • Morning (1 to 2 capsules)
    • Afternoon (1 capsule)

Hi-tech Pharmaceuticals Hydroxyelite is a fat loss aid supplement that, which has DMHA or Octodrine. And DMHA is responsible for increasing focus, energy, and endurance levels that helps performance in the gym, outside, or every day life, especially weight loss. The customer reviews are positive because they gained amazing benefits, due to the ingredients from caffeine, DMHA, and garcinia Cambogia extract. The benefits that Hi-tech Pharmaceuticals Hydroxyelite yields are:

  • Endurance just goes off the roof
  • It leads to no crash
  • It suppresses appetite
  • Laser sharp focus
  • Increases the pace of weight loss
  • Helps improve mood
  • Both Men and Women can consume it

That being said, there are warnings to consider, such as:

  • Should not exceed 4 capsules per day
  • Those that will be pregnant or pregnant can not consume this
  • At least 18 years old to consume

Redcon 1 Ultimate Fat Burning Stack

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The great thing about Redcon 1 Ultimate Fat Burning Stack is that it helps burn unwanted fats from multiple angles. Unlike other products that deals with one area of the body, this one covers other planes.

  • Product: Redcon 1 Ultimate Fat Burning Stack
  • Price: $109.99
  • Place to Buy: My Supplement Store
  • Size of Containers, functions, and dosage:
    • Redcon 1 Double Tap 90 Capsules benefits (dosage 3 capsules a day):
        • Your energy for the whole is covered, due to an increase
        • Your moods get better
        • Fat burning becomes a factor as well
        • Your appetite reduces and sugar cravings decreases
        • Your focus is sharp
        • Plus, it’s great for both men and women
    • Redcon 1 Silencer 120 Capsules benefits (dosage 2 capsules a day):
      • Helps with fat burn
      • This helps suppress appetite and sugar craves
      • Helps with water loss
      • Both can be used by men and women
      • It is a non stimulant formula
    • Mental Trigger 60 Capsules benefits (recommend to take 3 capsule 15 to 20 minutes before you try to focus)
      • Laser sharp focus, alertness,and attention span
      • Aids with overall energy

The downside of this product is that it seems you have to consume a certain amount to produce its full potential. It’s quite a hassle if you think about it. Plus, it could be dangerous if a person is not aware of the amount they took, which can lead to overdose. So, be careful and be aware when taking this supplement.

To conclude!

I would say I do recommend these products based on the benefits, but it is not for everyone! Plus, it is quite a to have a set rule of when to take the capsules. That is why it is best to consult your doctor first before trying these out. With that said, I recommend people to buy these products because it yields more benefits, than the cons. It is worth the price because I did try products quite similar to these and it helped me quite a bit. I also highly recommend people to eat natural produce as well!

Please leave comments if you have any questions!

Thank you! Let your inner strength guide you to your truth!

Centrum Adult Daily Multivitamins Review – Fill your day with Energy!!

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  • Product: Centrum Adult Daily Multivitamins, 130 Count
  • Price: $16.99
  • Place to Buy: Amazon
  • Size of Containers: 2 Bottles – Large with 100 tablets & Small with 30 tablets
  • My Personal Rating: 9.6 out of 10

My Product Overview

I started taking Centrum because these past few months I have been suffering from a major flat line. This flat line hit me all of a sudden and it was not expected. I was feeling depressed, apathetic, and unmotivated to get things done. I thought the flat line would go away for a few days, but it was not going away. I was frustrated!! So, one of my loved ones recommended me to take Centrum and see if it would help me a little.

After taking Centrum, I started to feel the benefits immediately! And the benefits are something that I will share with you all and how I thought about the contents. Remember, this is based on my experience and my opinion of the benefits that I felt.

Heightened Energy

Before taking this supplement in the last few months, I would feel apathetic, almost like a moving dummy with not much emotion. But when I started taking Centrum, I felt an overflow of energy that was surging in me. It was almost as if there was electricity going up and down my body. It really felt good because it was a sensation that I started to miss after a while.

I felt like a roaring lion, due to this new profound energy. My eyes would light up and I felt jumpy for a bit. I felt like I can go for hours or days with any physical hardships and still dominate my day.

Increased focus and motivation

Before taking Centrum, I did not always feel motivated or was in a mood to do anything at all. I just wanted to sleep for another 5 minutes and let the day goes by. However, when I started taking Centrum, I felt more motivated to work harder for myself and just focus on how to improve more. I felt I needed to be productive and complete a task or else I would be worrisome if I did not.

Also, my focus was sharper, than it was prior to taking the supplements. Before I would feel distracted every time I try to do a task. So, I had a hard time keeping my concentration. But after taking Centrum, it became a lot easier to focus on the tasks necessary to accomplish.

Digestive and immune system became more sound

For some reason, when I began to take Centrum, I began to feel like my stomach is being massaged by delicate hands. It sounds strange, but this is what I have experienced. It felt like a circulation in my stomach. This is probably because I just began taking the supplements, so my body reacted in a positive way. However, I felt slightly hungrier than usual and this is probably, due to the richness of the b-vitamins in the supplements that help metabolism.

It’s strange, I thought I would feel sluggish when I would hungry more often. But it made me crave for action to take for myself. For example, instead of waiting for someone to cook due to me being lazy, I would take the initiative to cook for myself.

Plus, my internal organs and immune system felt stronger. However, it did take some time kick in, due to the content being able to digest.

The contents of Centrum Adults Daily!

Centrum comes in with two bottles, one bigger bottle with 100 tablets and one small bottle that contains 30 tablets, which is a total of 130 tablets as stated on the box. The tablets are about a half inch long and the color is beige colored that tastes bitter.

The nutritional facts that are contained in Centrum are from Vitamins A to Zinc. Many people lack the sufficient minerals needed for the body. Centrum covers all those aspects that are needed for the body operate at a high level.

Of course, nothing beats eating natural fruits and vegetables in terms of raw nutrition. Centrum serves as an alternative, but not a be all and end all for everything.


Taking Centrum for adults daily is worth trying it out. Of course, consult your doctor first. Anyways, with all that benefits that has been presented, it sure gave me a worthwhile experience. I felt more energized to do many things in my own day. I didn’t make me feel apathetic, so it felt like a boot in power in my opinion.

I would rate this product a whopping 9.6 out of 10 because I felt more motivated, than I ever was prior to taking it. I felt more empowered throughout my day. Usually, I do not phrase supplements this much, but Centrum is an exception. They are good, so I highly recommend this product to whoever needs that extra boost in anyone’s daily life. Although, I still highly recommend eating natural produces, like fruits and vegetables. Nothing beats mother nature’s raw nutrition!

Please, leave comment if you have any questions!

Thank you all!

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How to get a jaw dropping and effective Back with Isometrics in 3 days?

Having a good back muscle is like the beams and of a building. Without them, the building will just fall apart.

Same with the back muscles because it reinforces a person’s posture by helping support the vertebrae.

Like the neck muscles, there are many benefits of having good posture. I mean not only you will look good in front of people, but it can boost confidence and mood! Yet, in our everyday working lives, we tend to slouch a lot with work and when we use the smartphone.

Many people have weak backs because it is constantly overlooked and underestimated. They think “Oh, that’s okay, that’s not important! Look at me, I look like a bada** Gorilla!”

Especially, it does not look great when a person slouches. They just look like a prehistoric human being with no awareness of the damage that is being done every day by just slouching and looking like a fool. And there are people that are lazy and think that it cannot be reversed.

But not to worry, there is a solution and it is painless, timeless, and priceless! It is called Isometrics Back exercises!

Isometrics back exercises can help strengthen your back muscles and it can correct a bad posture to a SEXY jaw dropping individual. This can used for people who already have good to boost that attractive nature.

So how to get a jaw dropping and effective back with Isometrics? It’s very simple and clean, to the point that you can just do it behind a desk.

So here are the exercises.

Bend over rows for the latissimus dorsi: Sitting

Now let us begin with the exercise! The exercise is simple and effective. I personally have gotten stronger and my posture has improved, thanks to this exercise alone.

The first angle:

  1. Let us begin by sitting down on a chair with an erect posture. Lift your leg about 10 inches from the floor. Then, begin to clasp your hands around your left knee, therefore your fingers are interlocking each other. Make sure your arms are straight out and that you are focusing on your left side of your latissimus dorsi.
  2. Start by pulling your arms back as hard as you can, while your left leg is resisting against your arms.
  3. As you build contraction at the same time, you inhale through your nose for about 3 to 4 seconds or until you fill up your stomach with air. After filling yourself with air and you built maximum contraction, maintain that contraction as you slowly exhale through your mouth for about 10 to 12 seconds.
  4. Once you release all the air, inhale once again for about 3 to 4 seconds and at the same time slowly releasing the contraction. Release the air and you are finished with the exercise. At least for the left side.
  5. Do the same with your right side with the same procedures.

Second angle (Midpoint):

  • Similar to the first angle, however, instead of lifting your leg about 10 inches, it will be ABOUT 14 inches off the floor. Your knee will be slightly closer to your chest for about 11 inches.
  • Your arms are bent at a 90 degree angle, instead of being straight out.
  • The breathing process is the same.

Third angle:

  • Just like the first and second angle, but instead of about 14 inches off the floor, your leg will be slightly higher. Your knee will be nearly touching your chest.
  • Your arms are bent even further ABOUT 45 degrees.
  • Breathe properly and enjoy the process.

The back squeeze

There are three angles for this exercise as well. When I did this exercise, it felt so good. My posture improved drastically and you can really feel your back muscles working all at once. I felt stronger as well.

First angle:

  1. Stand erect with your chest out and your head back. Your feet can be shoulder width to help with balance, just in case you end up falling like a tree.
  2. Then, grab your hands from behind and your elbows are straight out. Begin by clasping or grabbing your hands in any way you want. Once you have finished doing that, your chest will be sticking out. Your hands will be touching your butt as you are doing this angle. Start squeezing your back together and it feels like your shoulder blades are touching each other.
  3. Now, breathing is very important and I can not stress that enough. Like the previous exercise, as you contract your back muscles you inhale for about 3 to 4 seconds. When you inhale fully into your stomach, exhale for about 10 to 12 seconds, while maintaining maximum contraction.
  4. Once you exhale, inhale again as you slowly relax your muscles. Then, you exhale to complete this training.

Second angle (Midpoint):

  • Instead of touching your butt, it will be further away. Maybe about 4 to 6 inches from your butt. Basically, it will be midpoint between the first and the third angle. So, it depends on how further the third angle will be, which we will get to after this.
  • Once you figure that out, the breathing process is always the same and you just basically squeeze the back. Put intention into it.

Third angle:

    • The third angle is just how further you can go. For example, in the midpoint angle it was 4 to 6 inches from your butt, but this time it’s maybe about 8 to 12 inches.

Bend overs rows two for latissimus dorsi: Standing

It looks similar to the sitting version, but this is standing version, so it will be more of a challenge for your balance.

First angle:

  1. First is you stand up and put your right foot forward. Then, bend your right leg from 45 to 90 degree angle and bend your waist, so you can reach your leg. Keep your back straight.
  2. Now grab underneath your legs with both of your hands as you interlock both hands, while keeping your leg on the floor.
  3. To contract your muscles, begin by pulling your arms back like the sitting version, while you are trying to straighten your body with the resistance against your right leg.
  4. Slowly build tension as you inhale through your nose for about 3 to 4 seconds. Once you inhale, maintain that maximum contraction as you exhale through your mouth for about 10 to 12 seconds. After you release the air, slowly relax your muscles as you inhale again for about 3 to 4 seconds through your nose. Then exhale to finish the exercise.
  5. Repeat this process for the other leg as well.

Second angle (Midpoint):

  • For this angle, you just have to lift up your right leg 6 to 8 inches off the ground. Then, your back is straight and slightly bend your waist. Grab underneath the bottom of your right leg and you interlock your hands together.
  • The breathing process is the same as like every exercise introduced in the Isometrics series.
  • Repeat the process for the other leg as well.

Third angle:

    • Your right leg will be about 12 to 16 inches from the ground or until you reach a certain point where you can’t lift your leg up any further.
    • The breathing process is the same.


That’s basically the back exercises that I do with the classic isometric contraction. The good thing about this exercise is that it helped correct my posture and it strengthens my pull up repetitions.

I remember a few months back, I could barely do 2 complete pull ups. But now, I increased that number into 6 reps total.

So if anyone does this exercise, I guarantee it will help tremendously in increasing your pull ups and posture. Therefore, increasing your positive vibes with yourself and others.

There you have it! Isometrics back exercises!

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Thank you! Let you inner strength be your guide!






How to get the most Attracting and Godlike CHEST for Men and Women using Isometrics in just 3 Days

I have to admit, a beautiful chest is like icing on the cake. It just makes a person look so damn SEXY regardless of gender!

For women, the chest is important for them due the life they give out for the next generation and their presence. For men, it defines the presence of their dominance.

We even see gorillas puff their chest out and challenge the other gorillas of who is the alpha male of the territory. We even see paintings or statues of rulers and Gods that puff their chest out to show their supremacy among average people.

The chest can be a measuring stick of one’s confidence and aura that emanates.

That being said, in order to feel the power and the presence with just the chest, we need to build the foundation by training them. And the way we train them is using isometric exercises!

So how do we get the most attracting and godlike chest for men and women using isometrics alone?!

First of all, how does isometric exercises function?

Isometrics is intense and an exciting strength training!

Because it focuses on the mind and body connection, rather than being on autopilot by just going through the movements.

For example, some people just do a certain amount of reps and go through them just for the heck of it.

While performing isometrics, it forces a person to engage their nervous system by contracting their muscles by the use of concentration. So when that happens, you engage all your muscle fibers and bringing out their full potential.

Not to mention, it is the safest and most effective strength and muscle building protocol there is known to man. You do not suffer from unwanted injuries caused by weight training. And when you are doing isometric exercises, you will feel every muscle fiber being activated and the feeling of blood rushing in you. That feels GOOD and it energizes you!

As a result, from doing isometrics consistently, you can become toned, ripped/chiseled, and sexy(both gender). The good thing about it, you will NOT look like a bodybuilder all juiced up by any means, but it will give you extraordinary strength that is functional!

Plus, it’s fast and fun!

Now, imagine if we use isometric exercises to work out the chest. That would certainly give a person leaps and bounds strength and presence on a whole new level. Especially, the feeling of the “pump” and rush in your body.

Now, let’s move on to the exercises!

Upper Chest level!

The FIRST angle!

  1. First, you lift your arms in front and make sure your elbows are straight out. Next, clasp your hands together and your hands will be at forehead level.
  2. Begin by squeezing your chest together as if you are crushing an imaginary ball in between your hands. As you build contraction through your chest muscles, inhale through your stomach for about 3 to 4 seconds.
  3. After fully inhaling, slowly release the air for about 10 to 12, while maintaining maximum contraction.
  4. Once you release all the air, begin to inhale again for about 3 to 4 seconds, while you are slowly relaxing your chest muscles. Then, exhale once again to complete the exercise.

The SECOND angle!

  • Quite similar to the first angle. The difference is that instead of your arms being straight out in front, your elbows will be bent at a 90 degree angle and your forearms will be straight horizontally in front of your face.

The THIRD angle!

  • Just like the first and second angle! However, the difference is that your elbows will be bent at a 45 degree angle and your hands are nearly if not touching your forehead.
  • That being said, focus on your breathing as well and when to contract your muscles at the proper time.

Mid Chest level!

FIRST angle!

  1. Lift your arms at chin level and your elbows are straight out. Next, clasp your hands together and begin to squeeze like there is an invisible ball in your hands.
  2. As you contract your muscles, inhale through your stomach for about 3 to 4 seconds. After you fully inhale, maintain maximum contraction as you exhale for about 10 to 12 seconds.
  3. Once you release the air, inhale again for about 3 to 4 seconds as you relax your muscles. Then, exhale to complete the exercise.

SECOND angle!

  • Just like the first angle, where your hands are at chin level.
  • However, the difference is that your elbows are bent at a 90 degree angle. Begin the isometrics chest exercise process!

THIRD angle!

  • Quite similar to the first and second angles, but the difference is that your elbows are bent at a 45 degree angle. Your hands are already near your chin, almost touching them. The process of the chest exercise is still the same!

Lower Chest level!

First angle!!

  1. Begin by lifting your arms forward and your elbows are straight out. Your hands will be in front of your solar plexus. Then, clasping your hands together and grip firmly!
  2. Start contracting your muscles as hard as you can and breathe in for about 3 to 4 seconds.
  3. After you inhale through your stomach, maintain maximum contract as you exhale for about 10 to 12 seconds.
  4. Once you release all the air, begin to inhale again for about 3 to 4 seconds and at the same time slowly relax your muscles.
  5. After you inhale, exhale once again as you always did to complete the workout!

Second angle!!

  • Just like the first angle, however the difference is that your elbows will be bent at a 90 degree angle! It is simple!
  • Now, just make sure your breathing is on point and be aware when to contract your muscles as well.

Third angle!!

    • Follow the procedure in the first and second angle and you will do fine with this angle. So, your hands will be close to your solar plexus and your elbows will be at 45 degree angle!
    • Make sure, you are breathing properly because sometimes people forget this part of the exercise.

How many times a week should your perform this exercise?!

Ideally for me, I would each angle with each exercise per day.

For example:

  • On day 1, I would perform upper chest, mid chest, and lower chest levels on that day. However, the angle will be the first angle, the one where your elbows are straight out.
  • On day 2, I would do all the levels, but the angles will be at 90 degree angle.
  • On day 3, will be the same thing and the angles will be at a 45 degree angle.
  • Then, in the day 4 can be a rest day and begin the whole cycle again after day 4. But, you can also try to perform the exercises every day.

The exercises can be performed once a day.

Plus, you will not suffer any injuries and that’s what makes isometrics special.

Unlike, traditional weight training, where your muscles experience micro tears and over taxing on the joints. Isometrics does not make you suffer from micro tears and it does not overtax the joints.


You were able to perform the isometric chest exercises on different levels and angles. You soon figured out that isometrics offer maximum results if done correctly.

There are three levels of isometric chest workout that we performed from upper, middle, and lower chest levels.

And from each level, you were able to perform them at three different levels from elbows being straight out, 90 degrees, and 45 degrees.

Plus, you can perform these exercises once per day.

Once done correctly, you will feel your chest pumping to new heights like no other. You will feel every muscle fiber being activated on even the tiniest micro fibers.

When you do these exercises consistently, you will become a new person and see everything in a new light. It will give you an amazing feeling!

Thank you for reading! Until next time everyone! Please leave your comments as well!